Tuesday, November 01, 2005

About Men (from Oprah)


  • If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
  • If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
  • Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
  • Allow your intuition to save you from heartache. 
  • Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. 
  • Slower is better. 
  • Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. 
  • If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
  • Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
  • Don't stay because you think "it will get better."You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
  • The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
  • Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
  • Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
  • Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
  • If something bothers you, speak up.
  • Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
  • You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
  • Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
  • Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
  • Never let a man define who you are.
  • Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
  • A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
  • All men are NOT dogs.
  • You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street.
  • You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
  • You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
  • Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
  • Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
  • Never move into his mother's house.
  • Never co-sign for a man.
  • Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
  • Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
  • Share this with other women friends... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare ...

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